Reasons of Stress in Kids

Today we talk about the reasons for stress in kids.

Vijay Dalwani Sanda Wellness shared in last blog why kids are getting stressed, what you can do if your child is stressed?

Vijay Dalwani Sanda Wellness said:

“Kids are young souls, they are quick graspers and they absorb a lot from their immediate environment. So it is very important to keep their environment positive and charged up. This is the age when they start forming their bags of emotions and this bag gets heavier with negative emotions as and when they have experiences which have aspects of fear, sadness, trauma, pain or horror.”

Prolonged tensions lead to stress in kids. When children are scolded, they do not fear the reason for negative actions like firing, slaps, bashing ups , but what they fear are those actions and although these actions are to explain to them from acting wrong or to stop their acts, they may be too young to comprehend those.

Children have enough reasons to worry-

– Children who have met a calamity, like loss of a parent, accident or loss of a limb. These have a huge impact on their mind and they grow up to be psychologically weaker than the others. They have a constant need for sympathy and attention. They feel lost and they feel inferior before others. They could get psychologically drained and may not want to participate in activities of normal life.

– Immense competition and the added pressure of parents and teachers adds on to their stress. Pressure to be the best, score and be a ranker, participate in school annual days and be an active participant in sports and curriculum. Parents want to change the saying “JACK OF ALL TRADES, MASTER OF NONE” to “JACK OF ALL TRADES AND MASTER OF EACH ONE”. Well this could be a solid reason for stress. Stress to live up to the expectations of parents and making them proud.

– Separation of parents or regular fights and quarrels at home. Parents should be kept away from the problems of the parents. Parents are older and should deal with them on their own level. Involving kids would give them a picture which could psychologically affect them. When children are involved in quarrels and fights, it could lead to stress and sometimes even into depression.

– Child abuse is yet another cause of the problem. It leaves scars on the minds of the young ones. Each experience leaves behind a set of actions, some positive and some negative and child abuse could leave behind scars that could lead to forming a distinct behavior.

You must have noticed people who are extremely reserved, some who like sadistic pleasure, some who are narcissists and some who have extremely low self esteem.

Well all of this is because of their childhood experiences. So ensure that your child has the best of his experiences to share with your grandkids and even he grows up to be a great parent.

Reducing Stress

How can you help kids cope with stress?

“Proper rest and good nutrition can boost coping skills, as can good parenting. Make time for your kids each day. Whether they need to talk or just be in the same room with you, make yourself available. Don’t try to make them talk, even if you know what they’re worried about. Sometimes kids just feel better when you spend time with them on fun activities.” said Vijay Dalwani Sanda Wellness.

Even as kids get older, quality time is important. It’s really hard for some people to come home after work, get down on the floor, and play with their kids or just talk to them about their day — especially if they’ve had a stressful day themselves. But expressing interest shows your kids that they’re important to you.

Help your child cope with stress by talking about what may be causing it. Together, you can come up with a few solutions like cutting back on after-school activities, spending more time talking with parents or teachers, developing an exercise regimen, or keeping a journal.

You also can help by anticipating potentially stressful situations and preparing kids for them. For example, let your son or daughter know ahead of time that a doctor’s appointment is coming up and talk about what will happen there. Tailor the information to your child’s age — younger kids won’t need as much advance preparation or details as older kids or teens.

Remember that some level of stress is normal; let your kids know that it’s OK to feel angry, scared, lonely, or anxious and that other people share those feelings. Reassurance is important, so remind them that you’re confident that they can handle the situation.